Elise Morgan-Dynamic life coach, author, speaker, podcast host, and healer.

Elise Morgan is a former personal trainer and IFBB Professional Fitness Athlete, turned dynamic life coach, author, speaker, podcast host, and healer with a bold and sassy yet compassionate approach to personal empowerment. With a master's degree from the school of hard knocks and certifications in life coaching, NLP, and sacred ceremonies, Elise is dedicated to helping  women break free from limiting beliefs and unlock their true potential.

Through mindset coaching, spiritual growth, and personal transformation, Elise leads you on a journey to awaken your soul, embrace your authentic self, and navigate life's challenges with confidence.

Whether through life coaching, transformational workshops, inspiring podcasts, or soul-awakening retreats, Elise provides the tools and insights you need to level up and create a life you love.

*If you were from the future and coming to help humanity what message would you leave them with in less than 3 sentences?

That you are more powerful than you think or are being taught all the answers you seek are within you. 

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PODCAST:
THE ELISE MORGAN EXPERIENCE

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Chapters

• 0:54 Healing From Childhood Trauma
• 11:27 Navigating Divorce and Personal Growth
• 22:30 Taking Responsibility for Personal Growth
• 34:19 Embracing Self-Care and Personal Growth
• 44:33 Navigating Self-Worth and Identity Growth
• 57:03 Transformational Coaching for Self-Worth

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:55

Hi Elise, welcome to Quantum Alchemist Mastered Podcast. It's a pleasure to have you here. I'm excited to hear a little bit about you, your hero's journey, how you got to where you are today, and please share from your heart whatever comes up, whatever you want to share about yourself.

Speaker 2: 1:11

Well, I am so grateful to be here with you and I am so grateful that you are having this podcast for everyone to learn about themselves and who they are as humans. And about me. Well, I think I've got here from the School of Hard Knocks a very long education in the School of Hard Knocks, so we can get more into that if you'd like. But basically, life that brought you to a awakening of your mind and and take your responsibility for yourself and your actions and who you are and be as a person.

Speaker 1: 1:49

So I, as you know, cause we, we met slightly before, uh, just a couple of days prior to this, to to talk a little bit about the dynamics and stuff, and I told you I have no clue where this is going to go, and sure thing. So now I feel called to talk about your childhood. What was that like?

Speaker 2: 2:10

You know it's funny. I was just thinking about this the other day. So thank you for bringing it up, because I've been, I just started to do more inner child work and brought back a. It brought back a lot of emotions.

Speaker 2: 2:22

So I had a great childhood in the aspect of we were an upper middle class family. You didn't want from anything. My father was a very funny guy. It was always fun to be around and I was daddy's little girl. I had two older brothers and I had a younger sister and we could speak about her. She had committed suicide, but growing up as children we were all together, obviously. So I was very close in age with my sister and tight with her. Two older brothers, much older ones, 11 years older, one six years older and just, I have a lot of good memories because they're of being fun, you know, and that kind of stuff.

Speaker 2: 2:58

But now, as an adult, looking back, I realized I wasn't really ever seen or heard and you feel like invisible and unimportant and none of those words come out of your parents mouths. But that is the unspoken word and I also I don't really remember the age I can't say specifically I had gotten very overweight. So not only, and I just actually said this to my husband the other day. We were speaking about the child stuff and I was like you know, I never really got made fun of from friends or anything like that, but my family would make fun of me. So my childhood was like this you know, you're not really accepted for what you are. You're no one's even asking you your opinion. You're just, you know, just seen and not heard. Not seen, not heard seen and not heard.

Speaker 1: 4:00

not seen, not heard. Thank you for bringing this up, because when we're dealing with specifically the subconscious mind, which runs a lot of our programming, and if you're not, if you haven't done a lot of the work, you know it's hard to bring it into our awareness that that's even happening to us and we don't necessarily have to go through big traumas. You know, like abuse or something like that, it could be things like this, and I'm not saying you haven't, I haven't touched on that with you. I'm just saying in general, you know, we don't necessarily have to go through a big trauma to have things. We all have things that that we need to work on and and things that happened to us that, um, we're just learning and looking back in retrospect and and kind of putting those parts back together, um, kind of putting those pieces, those parts of us that maybe wouldn't know how to cope. As you know a lot of the inner child work and stuff like that, know a lot of the inner child work and stuff like that.

Speaker 1: 5:01

I would like to, if you can, speak about, about your sister. How old were you when that happened? 19. 19. That must've been. I cannot even, I have not gone through that. I cannot imagine what your reality must've been completely shattered, your heart, your soul. If you guys were, were close, I imagine it's like missing half of your soul, like somebody so close, kind of how did you cope?

Speaker 2: 5:29

with that.

Speaker 2: 5:30

Like what? How did that go? You know, she had, in my opinion now as an adult and knowing where I know, know about this whole world. I think a lot of it was brought on by the medications that she was given. She had like depression issues and stuff, and I think I believe the suicide in and of itself was caused by the medications. This has gone back many, many years ago and they didn't know half of what they know now and even now they don't really know much.

Speaker 2: 5:57

So how did I cope? First of all, it was and I and I don't, and you know if she was here right now she would understand how. Why I'm saying this it was a little bit of a relief, and not that you know you don't want your sister in your life, but because of you know where she was in her life and the in and out of mental institutions, whether she should have been there or not, and there's the chaos of the family quote unquote caused by her. So it was almost like a. It was like a relief because and I've spoken to other people about this so it's like you almost feel guilty because you're relieved because of all the problems and everything. But in the other aspect of how do you cope as this. You know your um, it, it's, it's, it's so different. I'm trying to think back how specifically because I've always been kind of into a higher consciousness without knowing I was um, I did not have a very supportive boyfriend at the time, so I was like thinking I, I brought this up to myself the other day. This is why I'm so I can try to get the words out to say what I want to say.

Speaker 2: 7:02

I wasn't supported to what. Like how are you doing Elise? I was never asked like how are you doing Elise? It was more like you know, everyone kind of just went about their life. You know, we all as a family were mourning, but no one ever really asked me how I was doing, and I've always been the caretaker for other people. Like, how are you doing? So I don't think I.

Speaker 2: 7:25

I even took the time out to say like how am I doing? You know, of course you're mourning, you're crying, and I just think I don't want to say ignored it. But I just like moved on quicker than I think I probably should have. And then, as I got a little older, then I started to go through some work, like writing her letters and saying I miss her and some of the things, and just, you know, I think people push it under the rug. At least that's what my family seemed to have done. And you know my coping was. You know I was young, you know, and like you know, you just continue with your life. You know everyone's going out, you know going dancing every weekend and like you know, you cry, you have your time, you have your funeral and then you kind of like go back to life and I don't think I gave myself a chance to mourn fully for her at the time.

Speaker 1: 8:20

Thank you for sharing that you still have both of your parents alive.

Speaker 2: 8:28

No, my dad died very, he was very young, that was. You know. You said this before. The word trauma, and I think for me the word trauma I don't like to use it, I think people use it way too much, but that was very a, I think, for me. The word trauma I don't like to use it, I think people use it way too much, but that was very a big thing for me. I was very close with my dad. He died when he was 55 and my mom is alive now. She's in her mid eighties, but to me my mom died a long time ago because she's just, she's just existing. So but to answer your question, the long, the long, short of it is the short, long of it. Whichever way you want to say that my mom is still alive, yes, Okay.

Speaker 1: 9:02

So a lot of the reasons why I asked all of these things is because, from my own personal experiences, my challenges, I like to see them as challenges, not traumas.

Speaker 1: 9:34

To me they're all initiations to the soul for the spirit to just expand, continue expanding.

Speaker 1: 9:37

But what I want to get to and how I want to shift this conversation is I know that now a lot of the work that you do is helping other people overcome all of these obstacles. But what I like, before we get into what you do, is to talk about some of the pain points, because we are in this position having gone through the fire, having gone through the darkness, having walked on the fire ourselves. We know what it feels. We know what it feels like when you're in darkness, when you can't see a way out, and a lot of the tools I'm sure that you share in your coaching and in your services is what has served you, the tools that allowed you to get through this. So that's why I get so personal, because we don't do this just as a sales pitch or as no. We we lived it and we are living it, just in different, you know, from different aspects and and different scenarios now in our lives. Have you ever been through divorce?

Speaker 2: 10:53

Yes.

Speaker 1: 10:55

Okay, that's another big thing. A lot of our clients have been through divorce, have been through loss, have been through depression, mental health. If we keep avoiding these conversations, if we keep pushing it under the rug how we've done it for so long just to be able to survive and thrive in life and you know, whatever pay your mortgage, your, your, your stuff, I get it, um, but it's really I don't, I don't believe it's serving us. In this point, I think it is the time to to sit with that, to bring light to that, to reflect, to introspect, to question everything about ourselves, like our thoughts, if you have suicidal thoughts, so why am I having those? What's the root cause of that? Why is it coming up? Menopause, we'll talk about that too. Basically, your curriculum is like you have all the check boxes.

Speaker 2: 11:57

Like I said, it's a school of hard knocks. Like you have all the check, all the check boxes. Like I said, it's a school of hard knocks. Well, I'm going to touch on that because you know I'm a firm believer and I have a feeling you're going to agree with this that and you can use the diamond in a rough, like diamonds cannot become diamonds without all that high pressure. And I don't think anyone. You know, maybe you're born elevated. You know to the place, you know. Maybe you're born elevated, you know to the place, maybe you are.

Speaker 2: 12:23

But chances are that you've gone through some deep shit, dark places that you never thought, or maybe you thought you're going to be there forever and then you come out on the other side and that is where you grow and that's where you elevate and that's where you become more awake. And you know, no one wants to feel some of these things, but the feeling of the shitty shit is what gets you to a higher place. And you know, when you're on the other side, you know the dark side. You may not think that. So we are lighthouses. That's what I like to say. We are lighthouses in people's storms because when you're going in it and you don't see a mentor if you will, or a coach or someone, then you wouldn't know.

Speaker 2: 13:00

So how would you know that there's life on the other side? There's, you know. I call it the happily ever after, and you brought up divorce and that's like my specialty. I'm not really happy about it, that that's my specialty, but it's my specialty because that's what I overcame. We spoke about the death of my dad and my sister, but one of the biggest things that I've gone through was my divorce from my children's father. I'm now remarried, but that was one of the darkest times of my life.

Speaker 1: 13:32

Could you share anything about that time, if it's okay?

Speaker 2: 13:36

I will. It's hard for me to share it and we've discussed this privately, but I will touch on it. For starters, I'm grateful for it all, truly, truly, truly grateful for every part of it, and for me it was that and I did not know at the time when I was leaving that my ex-husband was a narcissist, and if he hears this he will argue that fact. But that is my opinion. So, if you want me to be, this is my opinion of what I've learned. And I thought that since we were together I was with him since I was 15 years old and I thought that, since we were high school sweethearts and you know we were together for a very, very long time that we would be, it would be amicable and that we would be friends and I was so excited to be able to have that healthy breakup. If you will and it didn't go that way, you know and if you want to get into the whole thing, I'm sure your listeners would love to hear about narcissism or they might not even know they're going through it, but the whole thing happens when you leave them or tell them they don't want to be with them anymore, and there's smear campaigns, they lie, they go behind your back and tell people things that aren't true, to make people side with them. And the most hurtful thing for me, that it was done to my children and it. You know not to get into specifics, but it was a very horrible time for me because I did not know what it was Now. Now it's very prevalent to have it's called parent alienation and you know he'll, if he ever heard this, I'm sure he would fight me to the end that he never did that, but he did, and that was my experience with him. Might not be someone else's, but my experience with him was that and I thought I was going crazy. I didn't know what was going on.

Speaker 2: 15:31

Thankfully, now that I know about it, I always had my children. They weren't like gone, but I got the scraps. So that period of time for me was dark because since he played the victim so hardcore, my family kind of took his side. So not only are you going through this thing, not only are you going through all the emotions of like your kids and the whole thing. Your family is not even supporting you. They weren't not. They were not in my life, but like. They weren't supportive. You know they. They basically like I don't want to use the term turn their back on me, because that wasn't the case at one part. Sometimes it was, but yeah, but that's why it was very, very, very hard for me and I'm still unpacking a lot of that, because I don't think I realized how much mental abuse went on. I'm still unpacking a lot of that.

Speaker 1: 16:28

Thank you for being vulnerable first. I know it's a very private matter and sharing it with us, but believe me, your voice is the voice of millions yes, that's what's inspired me to tell it, because I don't want to interrupt you.

Speaker 2: 16:43

But, rosalia, this has been one of my stories that I've been holding in out of fear, and I'll, and I'm going to tell the reader, the listeners, this because they might have the same fear. It's because I know what he's capable of doing and you know, and my and my kids are grown men now, but they're still. They stand by. If it came push to shove, they might get very defensive. I'm not scared. I'm going to lose. I can't believe I'm going all out here. But screw it. This is what we're doing. This is why we do what we do. I don't mind telling the story to anyone, but I do mind if, like I, have a very, very big fear of not losing my kids. But just our relationship is great and I just don't want anything to get in the way of that. And it may here.

Speaker 1: 17:31

I'll say this I'll say this so that you don't have you don't feel because cause I, I know, uh, on a one-to-one you will come all out with your clients and with your friends and you would just dive deep into the real shit, pretty much, um.

Speaker 1: 17:48

So here's what we do at the end we're going to share how you're helping everybody else, how you know what you offer and stuff like that.

Speaker 1: 17:56

There's so many people going through divorce, both men and women. The bottom line of this is you've been through it and it's dragged on and it's been messy, which usually most of them are, um, and you have a lot of experience with it. So, if anybody really wants to dive deep and personal because we're mirrors of each other, we're students, both students and teacher, even though you're the coach A lot of these things help us identify with it and kind of see how you see it differently or how you understand it differently, or sometimes even recognize things that you didn't know they were like narcissistic traits, for example. So I will leave it, if anyone's interested, to dive deep into this particular conversation about divorce, about how to get through it, how to transcend it and to transform that into your purpose, and helping people through divorce has been part of your purpose and continues to be so, just for the sake of keeping certain details that are more private out.

Speaker 2: 19:12

Oh, I basically went all out. I didn't get it.

Speaker 1: 19:15

Well, no, because I'm sure there's a lot of specifics and a lot of things that a lot of people will identify with, but I would much rather, um, you know, if you offer, like a discovery call or something like that, or, or however you want them to reach out, um, that would be a good, a good starting point. Start somewhere, ask for help. If you're going through, if you feel like you first of all, if you're suicidal, please reach out for help, okay. If you're going through mental health, if you're going through divorce, if you're in a dark place, all of us as a humanity, we're ascending in consciousness together. What that's going to entail?

Speaker 1: 19:57

A lot of chaos, perceived chaos, from our limited perception. You know, our life is going to crumble, probably 360 degrees, you know, and your health, your marriage, your all of it, because it's like the Phoenix rising right. Something has to die for something new to be rebirth, and you have a lot of experience with death and rebirth. So I would just encourage somebody we're going to put in the description, however, they're going to be able to reach you, um, and they can really, really dive deep into this, into this conversation. Okay, Cause I don't want to put anything here that, yes, it may be liberating for us and it may help someone else, but it may hurt somebody else as well, so you know what I mean.

Speaker 2: 20:41

Yeah, A lot of people going through what I slightly described. You don't think that anyone else has gone through it because people don't talk about it or they don't know what it is, and it's like I said, it's a little bit more prevalent now the words to it. Like I said, it's a little bit more prevalent now the words to it, but I've been able to help women already with this because they don't know what's going on. And then you explain it. So yeah, your pain. I'm a firm believer in that statement. Your pain is your purpose.

Speaker 1: 21:12

It becomes your purpose. 100%, so you've been through quite a bit. 100%, so you've been through quite a bit. How long? And it may still be happening, but because there's so many things that are still unfolding. But how long did it take you to kind of navigate your divorce process?

Speaker 2: 21:33

So this is a fun, I'll tell this story. So when I was getting divorced so this is a fun, I'll tell this story. So when I was getting divorced, even though I'm a very powerful person, you know vibrant, vivacious, outgoing personality, the problem that I had that I did not know I had was low self-esteem or low self-worth. And when I was getting divorced I met someone else that basically saw a weak-minded woman and I got involved with this man and I'm also so grateful and I'll explain to you why because he was even more horrible, because he was more of a real crazy person, person and there was some physical things and, um, I sought different kind of help and I went to a support group for like, almost like a domestic violence type of thing and I never was afraid of him or anything like that, but it was like I sought this help. So I go to the support group and everyone's speaking and I speak about this now a lot because if you went in the support group, let's say, there was 12 women. Six were, let's say, in poverty, maybe addicts or stuff like that, but six of us were upper middle-class women, some affluent. So please know that if you're in a situation where in your domestic violence. It doesn't. It doesn't matter what walk of life you are, it does happen. I think some people think it's only in certain sects of society, but it's everywhere, but anyway. So I went to this support group and I started to learn I don't have any issues with this guy in that respect. I learned what my ex-husband was.

Speaker 2: 23:13

Well, at that time I might've still been married, I don't know and it was like an awakening for me Like, oh my God, that was me. I felt like that with him, not this guy. I felt like that with him, not this guy. So for me that wasn't even like navigating divorce. It was like an awakening for me Like, wow, I was just in a very abusive marriage without knowing I was in it because there was no physical abuse. There was mental abuse, monetarily abuse, and you don't know and let me ask you what you think about this.

Speaker 2: 23:50

I find it hard to use the word abuse, like I've said this publicly on my social media because everyone, or at least I think like, oh, abuse, like you got your ass kicked. You get your ass kicked every day, but no, it's. You know, mental is almost worse. You know, most of the time, people who have physical, have mental as well. I mean pretty much. I can probably bet a million dollars on that, but at least with the physical, at one point you could say look, what's being done to me, look, look, I have a black and blue look. I'm not saying I don't wish that on anyone, but it was an awakening for me and I went on to be manipulated by both of them at the same time, if you will. And then, once the divorce was over, the other stuff didn't stop, with the kids and everything. So I just I think for me that was my, my lessons, like I started to do more self-introspective, I started to look into personal development, I started to listen to things, I started to meditate. You just start to seek help for yourself.

Speaker 1: 24:54

Could we pinpoint what you just said? Because that's where I was going to go next Exactly, and you mentioned it. Okay, and what do you want? What you just finished saying to me, the way I perceive it, it seems like you took 100% responsibility. You didn't. Maybe, at some point during the process, you might've blamed them for certain things, but there was a point that you just described right now that to me it seems like you said enough is enough.

Speaker 1: 25:31

I'm up to here of the bullshit or the pain, or the, or myself, or my, or whatever it was for you, and I decide to take responsibility for my life, for my thoughts, for my situation, If we don't know that we're being abused, whatever that may entail because it's a humongous parentheses and so many things fall into that. My best advice for anyone and not just abuse, abuse, trauma. Maybe you're in a workplace that you dislike whatever, maybe you have negative thoughts throughout the day, maybe you don't like the story that you're telling yourself. I invite you to take 100% responsibility. My parents, I, was raped. Take 100% responsibility in the now moment, right now, right now, and the only work we can do is the work we do on ourself.

Speaker 1: 26:35

That is the best favor we can do for the entire world. I'll tell you real quickly, before we keep going with your story, when I first started coaching so I opened my own private coaching four years ago, but I've been doing the work for longer than that and I started coaching to help others. That's what I thought in my mind and that I was doing, and all along it was to help myself. And that I discovered that, of course, much later, because the exact case of my clients, to the exact details they, were parts of me.

Speaker 2: 27:15

Oh yes.

Speaker 1: 27:16

That I still needed to work on that. I still needed to see that I needed to explore from their perspective and with their help. So it's we're so much more connected than we think we are.

Speaker 2: 27:34

Oh, my God.

Speaker 1: 27:35

Like at such an interesting level.

Speaker 2: 27:42

But I want to touch on something. You just said it because I I said this to clients and and it really is a aha moment and it touches on what you just said. So you're in a situation yeah, I was, was, you know, sometimes I still do it you're in that like he's doing this and he's this and he's that, and he's this or she, whatever, it is right. And then I finally said to myself and I make my clients say it to themselves wait a minute, why am I allowing this? So, as soon as I had that, why am I allowing this? Then that's when the race was on, because it's like, yeah, I could sit there and stay in that loop the whole time, like why is he doing this, why is he doing this? But like, why are you there? Then, if you don't like it, why are you there? And then that's what made me say like wait a second, why am I there? Why am I doing this? And then you start to question yourself and you get to know yourself and why you're doing the things you're doing, because my favorite expression, what you allow is what will continue. So it's you know.

Speaker 2: 28:45

It's like you said, it's taking 100% responsibility for what's going on. You're not responsible that that person let's say, you want to use someone that was is a physically abused. You're not responsible for them making you hate. You, let's say but it's up to you to get out of it and seek help and do whatever. You know some people can't leave right away. There's all things you can do, but, yeah, it is 100%.

Speaker 2: 29:10

I am in the here and now. What can I do? Not like? Oh, my parents didn't have money? No, okay, so we all have parents that fucked us up in some way, shape or form. Okay, we all did. They might've not meant it, they might've been the best parents on the planet, and but they did. If you, if you look at society right, it's like you are where you were raised and it could be a good bed or not. But if you're not happy with it, guess whose job it is now to improve? Change you. So we spoke about this. You know when we met it's. You know, when you have that awareness and the accountability, then you know all the other things come a lot easier. It's not I shouldn't say easy. It's simple, but a lot of this work is not easy, but you have to do it.

Speaker 2: 29:57

So 100% responsibility for yourselves. And when you take your power back and taking your power back is taking responsibility so if you take your power back because when you're giving it away to other people, then you're powerless. So when you actually I say this all the time if you're blaming someone, you're actually powerless it's actually giving your power away. So taking responsibility is actually powerful. It's the opposite of what people think, like I take responsibility, so that means that it's not their fault, whatever. No, you take responsibility is powerful because now you're in power, I can do something about this.

Speaker 1: 30:38

Yeah, when I was connecting with my guides, they mentioned responsibility as our response and ability, and then they broke it into two and they said it's our ability to respond respond to what happens to us. I very much resonate with what you're sharing and with your journey, because you've had courage takes a lot of courage to look within, to look at our wounds, to lick our own wounds, to sew yourself back together, to seek for help. So you went through all these things. You lost your sister, you had a rough childhood X, y, z, whatever you know. You lost your sister. You went through a very difficult divorce. Yes, and how did you? How did it look like? Getting to the light at the end of the tunnel? Like you started personal development and you met a mentor, you met a friend that introduced you, you read a book that changed your life and you want to recommit. How does that like okay, there's a way out at least. Right, something at the end of the tunnel? Like how did that little roadmap kind of look like for you?

Speaker 2: 32:09

You know you're on that road without knowing you're on that road once you wake up to it. But for me, I can't specifically think of anything at the moment of like exact, I do remember looking at believe it or not how to do with my kids and like how to be a better parent, like with the communication and stuff and just parenting, which I can definitely help people nowadays with that, because there's not many parents out there that want to be parents, but that's a whole nother podcast. But I think it was just like learning, like being open to learning and how to be improve myself. And Abraham Hicks I don't know if you're familiar with like let's sort of listen to Abraham Hicks and meditations and a lot of I am affirmations and that's why I am grateful for everything, cause when I felt so alone, cause I really didn't have anybody, who do you have? You have yourself right and you just start to gain confidence and get to know who you are and love yourself or like yourself. And as you like yourself, you start to do more things for yourself and look into things and actually, look, I'm a research queen, so I was probably researching and looking at things and I'll research everything and that's probably how I found it was by research a lot of it, and I have a good friend that recommended Abraham Hicks.

Speaker 2: 33:27

But I think it's just that self discovery, personal development, how can it, without saying to yourself like, how can I improve myself? You're just on this journey and, if you want to say, your guides or the universe just started to kind of push me that way and I I'm still on that road. You know you're always learning, we're always becoming more and more enlightened. You know you don't become enlightened and then that's it. You just keep going and going and growing and, like I say, my glow, like I was always taught to be small and not be that shining light that you are. So then, once I started to be this shining light and be comfortable with it and I'm still sometimes have issues, you know because but you then become confident and you know if you want to use, let's say, abuse as an example, you know that you will never, ever put up with that again, ever, ever.

Speaker 2: 34:20

And for me, you know I like to tell clients in the divorce sect is that for me and I have a very different personality, so you can't. You know there are people that might not be able to do this, but I literally did everything by myself. I had another boyfriend after that. I was a very nice guy, whatever it didn't work out and I started to do everything by myself. I'd go to concerts and I'd go to here and I had the best fucking time. I'm a lot of fun, and so you know and I just started to if you want to use that term, date yourself, and I started to use this analogy of that you want to become, and I don't even think you need to go through divorce for this.

Speaker 2: 34:54

I think everyone needs to do this in their lifetime, even as young adults going into adulthood, you become an Island and you are your Island and everything you need is on that Island your love, your validation, your food, your water, everything that is sustaining for you. You don't need anything from anywhere else, and once you're comfortable being on that island and you have everything you need within yourself, then maybe you want to invite people on that island to share your life with you, because we are conditioned in society, in my opinion, to look outward for our love, for our validation, for everything is outward. Even our connection to whatever you want to call it is outward. Go to this building, go, do this, do this, and I don't even want to get into that subject, but you know what I mean. We're taught to go outward, like, look outside of yourself is where it all is, and guess what? No, everything is here. The power that creates worlds is right here in front of you. When you look in that mirror, you are the most powerful person.

Speaker 2: 35:52

And I even have a hard time sometimes saying like to myself. You know I'm very hard on myself. And another thing I want your listeners to know that we're in this space and we may be here, but we still have the same issues, it's they still creep in. We're not these perfect beings. You know I'm I'm been very not nice to myself lately, verbally, you know verbally, and I am very aware of that lately, you know, like yo, you gotta like watch your I ams. You know I call it the I. You know I am what I am two of the most powerful words you can say, because what comes after that is your truth. So if you're listening, we're not perfect, but we just we'll catch it quicker. But yeah, that's that's. You know, it's all about being open and aware and willing to do the, do the hard work, and a lot of times it's the feelings. It's the feelings that don't feel good, but when you push through them, you get to the other side.

Speaker 1: 36:54

Thank you so much for sharing that. I feel like a lot of people are going to resonate with what you're sharing and I will touch on something personal, um that I'm going through, um, so people can feel heard and seen and identified with because, like you mentioned, there's no exception. I'm no exception to any rule Um, just living this human experience like everybody else, jumping the obstacles and learning different tools that help me. Right now I'm working with a coach. By the way, I invite coaches to have coaches. We also need another reflection to reflect back to us, or another perspective of certain things we can't see. Just because we've been doing it long enough doesn't mean that we don't benefit from being a student in this type of work.

Speaker 1: 37:58

So I've been working a lot with finding a different type of balance between my feminine and masculine For so long. For many years I operated 90% masculine and 10% feminine and that worked for a while and I achieved a lot of success and I did a lot of things with that and I'm grateful. But there was a point in my life especially after certain health issues, um, where I wanted I, I craved my femininity and I wanted to embody that more and I just had no clue how to do that. I, I, that was not my conditioning, um. So I've been transitioning that and being aware of how I talk to myself, how I cultivate my garden within me in all aspects right, whether it's spirituality, relationship, finances, all of it inside. That doesn't depend on outside approval from social media, from your partner, from whatever right.

Speaker 1: 39:07

So one of the things I have been doing to cultivate that has been painting. Painting puts me in a place where I feel free. I feel very connected to my feminine, to my goddess creative side. I feel connected to God. I feel connected to God. So just explore different things, different avenues. Maybe it's dancing, maybe it's breath work, maybe it's plant medicine, whatever. Maybe it's a walk in nature, trekking or biking, but just explore your relationship with yourself.

Speaker 1: 39:42

I feel like one of the biggest relationships and the soulmate. One of the soulmates that we're looking for is ourselves, like our connection to our higher self, or what our soul really wants to do, how it feels joy, how it finds joy in this life, how it thrives. And then from that place it's such a powerful place because it's your roots. If your foundation is made in the sand and it hasn't taken root, any obstacle that comes along is just going to sweep you away. It's just, it's not, it's not going to take. So working in our self-reflection and our relationship with ourselves has been one of the most helpful things I've ever done for myself.

Speaker 2: 40:34

I agree, and it's an ongoing process. It's not like going to school for X amount of time and then you're done. It's literally constant. It's a daily activity. Daily activity, you know it's an activity.

Speaker 1: 40:48

What are, what are, some of your daily activities that you like to do?

Speaker 2: 40:51

okay, so I start my day with um, I just started. I always journal, but now I'm doing a brain dump first. So I I start with, you know, journaling, uh, and then I do gratitude and I kind of say what's on my mind, because I used to not do that. I used to think my journal should just be grateful and everything's gratitude, and then the rest would be in my head and it wouldn't stay there because I'll tell you about my next step. But I now like write some things, you know so journal, get it all out and then do the gratitude and then I do a stretch meditation. I'll stretch for about I don't know anywhere 20 minutes or so with type of like affirmations or something type of meditation.

Speaker 2: 41:32

And I love I personally love going on YouTube and like I have my favorites or just Google something that's bothering me, and I'll be like you know, meditation for whatever X, y, z, and then I do a full and then I'll do whatever time I have left I'll devote to a regular quote, regular meditation, either a visualization or just stillness, quiet, and that is a non-negotiable for me. I do that every day and for me, even if I feel like it's not doing anything, it's definitely doing an immense amount, and I'm sure you know about meditation and the benefits and that is one of the most simplest ways to help yourself. And you know it's not only just sitting crisscross applesauce on the. You know I say this and forgot if I said it on one of my posts. It's not about wearing, you know, lululemons and Birkenstocks and, you know, eating granola.

Speaker 2: 42:25

You know it's not anything like that. It's about just quieting your mind. And if you can't do that, that's fine. Maybe have a guided meditation and taking that time out to connect to you and you. You know the power of the world because we're so, especially nowadays, we're so filled with electronics and this and school and kids, blah, blah, blah. And then you can't hear your higher being, you can't hear your inner being. You can't hear it if it's cluttered. So it helps you be able to hear, okay, and then those are the two things that I swear by, and then obviously, there's other things throughout the day that I do.

Speaker 1: 43:06

Thank you for sharing that. I wanted to. I concur with that a hundred percent and I invite people to play around with it until you find a routine that you like that feels good for you. I want to touch on exercise because to me, exercise is way more than that is is related to mental health, is related to coping, it's related, it's related to everything, um, and nutrition as well, and there's a lot of misinformation um out there, unfortunately, um, our, our food has been tampered with our mental health, including that, both diagnosis and medication, for, just to call it something, the big pharma or you know, just um, whatever any other agenda but, um, the wellbeing of humanity as a whole, but the wellbeing of humanity as a whole. So I feel like, again, we go back to taking responsibility as an individual. What can we do?

Speaker 1: 44:13

And in this case, I would like for you to speak about what your road with staying healthy, with exercise, with nutrition, has been, because that's such a key part. That's something I struggle with and maybe one-on-one you and I can work through that, because I have been going through that. You know, with my hormones, with age, everything changes. It's harder to lose the weight Like. I was always 103, 113 at the most. In the past, say, four years, I've had not been able to lose the weight, um, and I've done so much Um, so it's definitely, you know, um, a challenge that is here to be transcended, worked with, understood and um, which I appreciate because I've been able to look at nutrients, at food, at the microbiome, at gut health, the gut brain axis, and just so many things that if I had not gone through that, maybe I had never stopped to look at it. So what has been your personal journey with the weight, with menopause, with the health aspect of that?

Speaker 2: 45:23

Well, like I touched on before, I was like a heavy kid and then when I got to whatever age I was 15, I lost weight and got in shape. I was always athletic and I got a lot of attention for that. So move forward and I'm skipping over years, but I became a professional figure athlete. You're like a, a bodybuilder, but it's not bodybuilding, it's more like feminine, and so of course I know about exercise and nutrition to get into that kind of shape and it is a very big part of my day. I didn't bring that up, I was only going for, like, the spiritual and mental health. But like I, I have to train. Like it's something in better than me. I have to. There are days I don't want to, but it's just part. So I definitely train. I do weight training and, you know, um, elliptical. Now I have some back problems, you know, can't really jog, but like that is definitely part of a very important part of my day.

Speaker 2: 46:15

And sometimes I have to remind myself why. Because you know, are you doing it for vanity reasons or you're doing for health reasons and bringing up the menopause, which we both discussed? So I always keep going to the gym because it's so healthy for you, right, but it gets frustrating when you feel like it's not doing anything. I mean it is per se, but you know I tend to get overwhelmed when you start to get into the healthy and the stuff about food and everything. And I just try and be as healthy as I can and not really think too much about it if I'm not buying organic chicken that day or whatever. But I try and eat clean, which means like trying to eat junk and all that crap and try and maintain weight and so menopause I mean I feel like I'm in someone else's body. That's what I feel like, especially coming from my background. That was my occupation, I knew what to do.

Speaker 2: 47:10

So now that you know what to do and it's not working, it's quite frustrating. So I also feel like it's a what was the word? You said? Oh, challenge. Okay, I feel like it's a challenge and it's also a way for me to say like, okay, what if you stayed the way you were and you're not going to be looked at anymore for your definition Cause I'm certainly not defined right now Like your definition and for being in shape. I mean, people see me, they know you're in shape, but I'm talking about, like, what I'm used to. What if that's not what your identity is anymore?

Speaker 1: 47:45

Can we pause? Yeah, guys, going through identity crisis and what we base, who we are, and our value and attention and love. Ultimately, it comes down to as a humanity and I include myself very much in this one of the big woundings is self-worth.

Speaker 2: 48:12

Absolutely.

Speaker 1: 48:14

As a humanity, as a collective, the collective, unconscious. It is completely wounded with the unworthiness that is something at the deepest level abuse, abandonment, all of it, and I've worked with so many clients Abandonment, all of it, and I've worked with so many clients. We go to what's underneath that and it comes down to self-worth. Oh yeah, so it's important to find that inner garden and cultivate it, regardless of what's going on outside.

Speaker 1: 48:53

Absolutely garden and cultivate it regardless of what's going on outside, regardless of your profession, regardless of your looks, regardless of who you think you are. So when I do breathwork and I lead people, one of the things the introductory I use a lot of healing Icaros, which are songs from the Amazon and things like that, and there's a space that we get to where everybody's kind of like the walls are down and you're a little bit more relaxed. I say, okay, so start imagining like you're taking off all of the layers that define you your profession, being a mother, being a daughter, being a human, your name, right. Then they eventually get to be this little ball of light, like a second sun, right. So from there, from being energy, from being love, from your true essence, really nothing outside of you can really do anything. It's just an experience to be lived, to be felt, to be transformed to all of those things. And thank you for being honest and vulnerable while being a coach, because I feel being a leader, being a coach, being a conscious leader, that could also be a trap for us.

Speaker 1: 50:13

Being this perfect white light, love being there's a lot more than that in in this work, absolutely so it takes guts to stand here and say again I, you know, uh, you know we're going through identity cases and life and death and rebirth, and that's the real shit that's happening. Yeah, we do nothing by coming on here and say, oh perfect, come, come, come, do a session with me. That's not going to help anybody. You know we're working through this shit together. Okay, maybe somebody that's 80 can come and talk to you and be like, oh honey, that's nothing, I've been through that or whatever they're like you know. Um, but maybe somebody like me that's kind of dipping their toes in that and you're ahead of the curve, then we can work together and then you can guide me and be like all right, I got you. You know, let me, let me walk you through this. So thank you for being open and true and I feel that authenticity If you guys are watching the video and not just listening.

Speaker 2: 51:26

She's the real deal, I am the real deal, I am the real deal.

Speaker 1: 51:28

I like that.

Speaker 2: 51:29

And I'm glad that you brought that up, because I did a I think it was a social media post and since we're speaking about menopause the whole entire time here, I feel like I haven't said what I wanted to say because I have menopause brain, so, like excuse, I mean, my brain feels like it's it's. It's a horrible feeling. But what I wanted to say is that I actually even made a post of that, something to the effect of when I'm speaking to you, meeting social media, I'm really talking to myself as a reminder when I'm helping you. I might not even need it, but it reminds me. It reminds me of where I came from. It reminds me of how much I've grown. It reminds me of how powerful I am and how worthy and deserving I am and you are and everyone is. And it reminds me of not to be like. You know.

Speaker 2: 52:24

I have a very bad habit right now, speaking of menopause is I. The second I wake up, I look in the mirror and I'm just like, like, and just today in general, like, why are you starting your day like that, with looking at yourself and saying that you know what? You don't look like? You did and maybe you will again. I'm very confident in that. But, like, stop looking at first of all what you look like anyway and how you're going to start your day and just look within.

Speaker 2: 52:53

You know, in one of my rooms I go, I stretch in one room but I lay down and do meditation in another room because there's a bed in there and there's a mirror in there and I just pretty new about a week, a week and a half, maybe two weeks I've literally talked to myself in the mirror as if I'm the little girl or as if I am looking at myself as is, as like someone else. And what would you, what would you say to yourself? Am looking at myself as is, as like someone else, and what would what would you say to yourself? I did a post today something like I would never speak to my children or my husband the way I speak to myself sometimes. So I got to check that like I have to speak to myself the same way I would speak to someone I love with all my heart. So you know, we're definitely not perfect beings. Even though we could guide you to a higher place or guide you to where you want to be, doesn't mean that we are perfect.

Speaker 1: 53:42

Yeah, and another thing I want to point out is in regards to when it comes to coaching, like for me, my, the coaching session I had with my, with one of my coaches it's nothing new. We're not telling you. Essentially, if you're really really in the, in the core of your being, you already know. Yes, we are just reflecting back to you maybe a different angle or maybe something that even triggers you, because one of the things she said to me oh, this is a possibility, and my answer to her and I noticed how defensive it was I said absolutely not. And I was like and I caught myself and I'm like so interesting that I answered in that way and that I felt triggered by what you said to me. So thank you for bringing it up. So, yeah, it's constant work.

Speaker 2: 54:43

The very thing, and I said this conversation with my husband before I got on here and it wasn't. It was kind of like that. I actually said, like you know, we need, we, we all need to ask ourselves sometimes why you answer in certain ways, because it usually has nothing to do with the person. It's, yeah, what's going on in you. You know what I mean and it's not. It's not fun to hear that, you know, when you're not in a mood to hear it.

Speaker 2: 55:10

So a lot of times you get defensive or whatever. Like I said, we're all human and you know, sometimes you go back to that knee jerk reaction to things or things that you didn't uncover yet or not fully or fully healed from, or whatever it may be. You know, so it's. You know. My whole thing with people is what I've learned is I want to awaken and inspire people, but you also can't do that to anyone that's not ready for it or willing.

Speaker 1: 55:39

Thank you for also pointing that out. Tell me a little bit about how you help people now. Um, cause I know you've had a transition, um, pretty much. Um, how does it look like like? What type of services do you offer? How does how does that look like, Cause I know you're very multifaceted, Um, so tell us a little bit about that.

Speaker 2: 56:06

So, like I said, I'm like at the core personal development coach, if you will, and help people create a life they fucking love, with mindset shifts, reclaiming their power, finding happiness and inner peace within themselves. And I specialize, or I have a specialty, in the women who are either going through divorce or in a toxic relationship or just the low self-esteem like, all that confidence, whatever. So, for right now, I have my own podcast, which I love because that's personal development all over the place. It's called the Elise Morgan Experience Podcast. I have my Instagram page and I'm working on a book is coming out, and how you can work with me is I have a few things up in the air.

Speaker 2: 56:51

So I'm having, locally in Florida, going to be setting up a like a one day retreat for these women to so they can teach them some ways to get either through it or past it. And also, you know, coaching. You know so one-on-one coaching is, you know, always great People. People love being coached themselves and also having, you know that one-on-one attention and also group coaching. So, like, I have a whole array of how you can work with me, so I urge you to get in touch with me. You know, free discovery call, it's just no strings attached, just want to hear your story, see if I can help you and help you right on the phone, right on the discovery call. You know you'll get. You'll get something you need on that call, whether we work together or not, because that's what I'm here for. I'm here to serve you, I'm here to help you. So whether you continue with me is up to you, but you will get something on the call.

Speaker 1: 57:48

So that's beautiful. Thank you so much. We're going to put all of the information in the description so they can reach out. It could be easy and they'll know how to find you. Is there any last messages you want to leave the listeners with or any last messages in general you want to share?

Speaker 2: 58:07

I see you, I know you and I love you, and you are worthy and deserving of a life you absolutely love.

Speaker 1: 58:24

Wow, well, I needed to hear that at least. So thank you.

Speaker 2: 58:33

I actually got tears in my eyes saying that, because I think I was saying it to myself. So thank you for having me.

Speaker 1: 58:38

Thank you, Elise. The honor is all mine. Thank you.

Speaker 2: 58:41

Thank you so much.